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QUIZ: How would you help?
Did my enjoy a positive relationship? Even birds know to display their best feathers when it's mating time. Where can you find people?
I read lots of posts like these, read lots of books and took the advice. Finding your match can be a challenge. My way or the highway: When we have to make a decision together, do I tend to convey that it's my way or the highway?
Talkers are attracted to talkers, quiet folks to quiet folks. At the same time, the sites often do yield results. Your Score Dealing with someone who is in an abusive relationship can be difficult. That's the point of this quiz. If your parents looked unhappy or fought a lot, odds are that marriage looks unappealing to you. I literally worry they will be boring. May circumstances shift so your sadness turns soon to joy!.
QUIZ: How would you help? - It is not in any way my intention to say that mate-seeking is a necessary or appropriate project for everyone. I literally worry they will be boring.
Why are you still single? For sure, being single when you want to find a life partner can feel profoundly frustrating. Maybe you've been or even living with someone and could help you make the leap to. If you haven't yet found someone whom you want to love forever, fortunately, there may be that could help you in your partner search. Devote more energy to meeting new people? Reach out more warmly to potential partners? The bottom line is that the more clear you are that you want to marry, now, and the more clearly you make decisions that increase your odds of meeting a right partner, the higher the odds you will find your one and only. If flirting means showing enthusiasm when you meet someone you like, yes. If flirting means being sexually seductive, maybe yes and maybe no. Looking like a flirt turns some potential partners off. At the same time, showing interest in someone who interests you is a definite plus. The key factor in picking a spouse is matching. I recall once hearing an actor describe tryouts for a play. The person who gets the role is the one who is best matched for it. Subconsciously all of us are looking for someone who feels like the pepper to our salt shaker. That's the one for me! If you like the facts that you are Irish Catholic, fun-loving, and out-going, look for the same. While having not yet found your match says NOTHING about how good a person you are, taking a fresh look at what's working and what's not may help to speed up your progress toward your goal. That's the point of this quiz. Others have deeper fears that hold them back. Still others need to rethink their courting strategy to come up with a plan of action that will put them in contact with more of their kind of folks. The following quiz lists twenty factors that can affect spouse-finding. No doubt, there are others. Finding your match can be a challenge. A yes answer to any questions on the following quiz could merit taking a further look at this dimension and rectifying what you see. Do I speak more rapidly, or slowly with pauses between words? Matching of vocal patterns plays a vital and yet often role in mate selection. Look for someone whose voice and speaking style matches yours; alternatively, think about adapting your style to the style of potential partners who in other dimensions look like possible matches. Dialogue asymmetry: In a conversation do I use more air-time than others? Matching again is key. Talkers are attracted to talkers, quiet folks to quiet folks. Monologues: When I talk, do I often give lengthy explanations or monologues? While matching plays a key role, certain styles can be a turn-off to just about anyone. Long monologues tend to drain energy from a conversation. Talking together is usually most fun when each of you alternate speaking in short segments, each adding just a few sentences that make one point per talk-time. Excessive self-focus: Am I more interested in talking about myself and my views than in asking others about their thoughts and experiences? Narcissism is a stance of 'all about me. At the same time, if you are all about the other person with virtually no talking about yourself, you are likely to be at risk for attracting a other. Do I assume that I can know what they should do or what they think and feel instead of asking them? Just be sure that you put your preferences on the table as well. A strong relationshp generally has co-pilots. Mistaken listening habits: When others are talking do I think about what I want to say next rather than actively absorbing what they tell me? Just as baseball requires skills at both throwing and catching, partnering requires skills at both talking and listening. If so, consider learning. My way or the highway: When we have to make a decision together, do I tend to convey that it's my way or the highway? If so, better check out how to do. While you are at it, get savvy about. Quick to : Do I often get irritated? When I do get mad, do I sometimes get very mad? Irritability can be a huge turn-off to potential partners. Do I attempt to change the other person? Learning skills for using I-messages instead of you-messages and the other basics of could make a big difference. Did my enjoy a positive relationship? Some people have a deep-down of marriage. Often that fear is built on having watched their parents suffer from inabililty to create a positive alliance or sustain a tone of goodwill. Learn also how to take and turn them into shared-problem-solving. If my parents divorced, do I feel unclear about why they split up? If so, a conversation with your mother and another with your father to ask for their understandings of mistakes each of them made that undermined their ability to enjoy a lifelong partnership. This is important in order to free you up from marriage-wariness. If you have not learned from history you may be understandably cautious about repeating it. You may feel in that you are always waiting for the other shoe to fall and then suddenly, poof, the relationship will be over. Were one or both of my parents unhappy in their marriage? If your parents looked unhappy or fought a lot, odds are that marriage looks unappealing to you. In this case, taking can remove the mysteriousness of how to sustain long-lasting love. Also, a course can reassure you that even though your parents were not able to demonstrate collaborative communicating for you, you have learned the skills for marriage success. Is it possible that I don't like myself? If you have a hunch that this pattern might be so, transitioning from self-dislike to self-acceptance is an issue that may be important to work on. Am I waiting instead of taking action? Have you been relatively passive about the process of finding a match, waiting for The Right One to arrive in your world? If you needed a new sofa, you would not wait patiently for one to arrive. You would go shopping. The more active you are about going out and looking for a suitable life partner, the more likely you are to find one. The more new people you encounter per week, the higher the odds that one of them will be right for you. Where can you find people? Go to events and places that your kind of match might go to as well. Or go out of your house to anywhere. Even a walk in the park gives you higher odds of bumping into an interesting new someone than staying home. One young man told me he had decided he was ready to marry. He told me his plan: he would start going to services. The next week when we talked again he reported that he had met a lovely young woman. Within weeks they were engaged. Here's a vital tip though: When you are out and about, think of yourself as the shopper, not the shoppee. Look around to identify potentially interesting folks and take action to get to know them. A second tip: Ask to think about anyone they know who could be a good match. Third tip for an active approach to mate-finding: Use sites. Many people are hesitant to use the sites. At the same time, the sites often do yield results. I've been impressed with how many individuals in my clinical practice have found their life partner online. Fourth tip: a word of warning on increasing the activity-level of your mate search. At the same time as you make the hunt for a life partner a top priority, do keep living your life. Constant shopping and hunting can get demoralizing. Feeling that your own life is gratifying and worthwhile is important for your own satisfaction, and also makes you more attractive as a potential partner for someone else. Do what you love and someone out there is likely to love what you do. Fifth tip: You may be holding back from active partner searching because a subconscious part of you is afraid of loving. Another PT blogger has written on this topic. Am I unclear about the kind of partner I am looking for? Close your eyes, and allow images and words to come up of what you like best about yourself. Think also about three aspects of who you are that you would like your partner to share. Use this data base as a starting point for picking who you would like to partner with. As psychologist Erich Fromm wrote in his classic book The Art of Loving, the best partners to choose are 'like what you like best about yourself. How attentive have I been to how I look? In the hunt for a marriage partner, appearances matter. Love starts with looking. Even birds know to display their best feathers when it's mating time. Looks alone won't get you a wedding ring, but to score eventually you have to first attract some initial candidates. So men, are your pants long and sloppy? How long has it been since you've picked up a new shirt? Could your hair use a trim? T-shirts are okay when they are fresh, maybe. At the same time, if you want to look like an eligible-to-support a woman kind of guy, better not to dress like a high school kid. Gals, how about re-thinking your hair? Take a quick moment too before you leave the house to add a dab of lipstick. Hit the weight loss programs, guys and gals, if extra poundage is hiding your natural body shape. And gals, like the guys, check out your clothes. Are you dressing like a grownup who is strutting her stuff, or like a high school kid who is hanging out with whomever? For a new look, pick a store whose clothes you really like and have the salespeople pick out some new outfits. Have a friend who dresses with style come look over your current wardrobe with you to sort out what to keep and what to give to Goodwill. Most importantly, make sure that every day you add attractive jewelry. Dangling earrings, bracelets and necklaces catch a guy's eye. Remember that you can stumble upon a good match anywhere--on the bus, taking a walk, at work as much as at a social event. Take a double look at that mirror every time you are about to step out of your front door, not just before a party. Even birds and mammals look as spiffy as possible, showing their feathers, when it comes time to mate. Have I been living with someone and just don't know how to move on to the next step, to take the leap from co-habitation to marriage? Talk together about what each of you are waiting for to be able to decide whether you will marry or not. If there are some serious concerns, face them head on, discuss them, and either find a solution or decide to separate. If the basic match is good, odds are you will know that very soon after meeting each other. Later you will always discover subsequent areas of difference. Facing your differences is the second stage of falling in love and needn't be finished before you decide to marry. Just make sure the two of you both learn skills for talking over tough issues together so that you will succeed in finding our-way solutions to your his-way, her-way conflicts. So if you have been together for some time, be sure that you have in a positive, collaborative way, and then go for it. What is my subconscious time-line for marriage? If you believe that people shouldn't marry until their thirties, odds are you will not find your match until at least that age. By contrast, if you believe that mid-twenties is a fine time, that's when you will open yourself to the universe for finding that special someone. To calculate a time that's right for you rather than simply going along with conventional , check out and also. In sum, the reality is that there's a reason why traditional societies have expected parents to find a marriage partner for each of their children. Finding an appropriate partner can be very challenging. With arranged marriages, provided they involved consent of the betrotheds, someone else did the hunting and scouting for you. At the same time, finding your own meant-to-be can be an exciting adventure. Remember too that all you need is just one right person. One chance encounter when you are in the right time, place and frame of mind can change everything. Meanwhile, going through the 20-point checklist on this quiz hopefully will give you some ideas of how to move forward with increasingly high odds of success and self-. Denver clinical psychologist , a graduate of Harvard and NYU, is author of Power of Two, a , a , and a that teach the communication skills that sustain positive relationships. Heitler's most recent book, adds further relationship skill essentials. Are you aware that 1- 11 of your list align to a large degree with the symptoms of Aspergers? Yes, they are social skills and therefore can be learned, they also need to be explicitly taught and practiced by those with Aspergers. Which is really hard to do because 1. Oh, and you have to like them and they need to like you Next time please provide more positive opposites on what TO DO. I appreciate that you thought being fixed up by friends was better than online dating but this presumes you have friends. I like your suggestion that I offer the antidotes, i. I just added several, mostly referring people to other PT blogposts I've written on those subjects. Pick on the basis of the good qualities 2. If you even once see rule-outs such as addictions, propensity for affairs, excessive anger, dishonesty or other character flaws, ask the person if they have any intentions of changing these. I read lots of posts like these, read lots of books and took the advice. I was a good dater. I kept my mouth shut, I listened. I asked lots of questions. I really got to know my partners. My dates adored me, thought I was the one for them. I made sure I looked great, over time my partners grew fat and got sloppy. What I found was constantly listening to people eventually gets annoying. Compromising really means doing what the other person wants to do. In the rare cases you do something you want to do all you'll get is a bunch of complaining from your partner. I suppressed a lot of anger, my partners didn't. When I ended the relationships my partners were devastated, and I was thrilled to be rid of them. If you want to play a game, change who you are, take this advice from Susan Heitler and you will be married off in months. Unfortunately, you might not like who you become. Remember, divorce is expensive and stressful. And nobody can play a dating game forever. Both partners need to be comfortable saying their thoughts and feelings. Both need to be interested in each other's viewpoints and experiences. What's good for the goose has to be good for the gander as well. Like you, I also dislike and advise against compromise. Compromise is a lose-lose solution-building strategy. Your attributing this bad advice to me is mistaken. The perception that the relationship strategies you describe do not work is a viewpoint that I share with you. I pretty much am the person in this article. It's not much of a struggle--I was born pretty laid back with a fair amount of interest in others. For me, it has simply come down to the luck of the draw. I've grown weary of searching for a significant other. It's a fine line between sick and tired of being along, and sick and tired of looking. In fact, sometimes I think it is a total miracle how many people do manage to discover someone who is just right for them.... As to getting exhausted by the process, I totally sympathize with that as well. Some kind of balance between looking for a mate and living your life is vital, and even then the hunting can get exhausting and demoralizing. Usually that means it's time to take a break, and then maybe return to the hunt once your energies for hunting have returned. I'm not talking about Aspergers either. Studies have shown that many single women are very social and have many friends. They just don't choose to be married or in a committed one on one relationship. You might want to check out Bella DePaulo's PT blog for another perspective rather than the stereotypes you are forcing single people into. Yes, some people are single by choice. I'm sorry if you're single by choice and couldn't figure out that you were not the target audience for this article. Perhaps the author made too great a leap in assuming that a person who CHOOSES to be single might actually be aware of her our his deliberate choice and therefore already know the reason he or she is single? If anything, there are far too few articles on this site that address the concerns of people looking to start a relationship rather than maintain an existing one, so would you kindly not stop trying to suppress information that some of us actually need? If, on the other hand, your goal is to get a rise out of yourself by making yourself upset, just keep it to yourself from now on. One blogger here speculated that pair-bonding occurs when two parents both participate in raising off-spring. Adam longed for an Eve, but that kind of longing is not shared by everyone. Mammals too need social associations to enhance their chances of survival. But pair-bonding is by no means the only way to get this kind of connection with others. This article is for singles who are seeking a mate. It is not in any way my intention to say that mate-seeking is a necessary or appropriate project for everyone. What about supporting yourself? I was raped by the first person I met through online dating. Some were nice to me, but they all had serious problems that I didn't want to get mixed up in. The last person I started talking to from online insisted I had better met them at their parents cabin out in a wilderness area that happen to be without cell phone service and was 5 miles away from the nearest neighbor and if I did not I could forget dating. I suggested meeting at the local coffee house and was told no way forget it so I figure I dodged another rape and it's then I decided to stop going the personal ads route. I think online is where all the rejects go who can't find someone the old fashioned way. I tried the old fashioned way and have been active in many hobby groups, currently taking classes, visited churches and I regularly go to the gym so I am out there around other people. Thing is I'm not impressed with what is available. I've yet to meet anyone around my age even through these routes who was not either a heavy drinker, takes drugs, is just looking to sleep around or is mentally ill. I am beginning to think just about everyone under age 50 is just messed up. Is there anyone out there who is a responsible, mature adult anymore? When I politely say no I am usually quizzed extensively. As the date progresses I am usually asked several times whether I would like to just try a glass of wine. I don't think people are trying to change my mind, I've noticed that alcoholics don't like to drink alone and are dating so they can find a drinking buddy. There are more alcoholics around than we are led to believe. I've also notice that many people seem to be popping pills, and talking a lot about each pill they take. This is the new American conversation. And it isn't hard to tell when somebody is mentally ill, when the conversation erratically jumps from topic to topic. Better advice for daters would be to avoid mentioning a long array of health problems, cut down on the drinking and get your head together before attempting to date. The dating pool is chock full of obvious losers desperate for somebody to enable them. Most dating advice is to insist the sane normal people lower their standards and give the high-maintenance losers with the problems a chance. If one does that then yes, everybody will quickly find somebody to marry. The pickings do get slimmer with age since most of the best of the litters have been chosen already. There is some evidence though that the high rate of divorce amongst empty nesters releases another set of potentially more eligible folks. Just be sure that they have learned important lessons from their first go-round. Psychology people have it the hardest, as there's so few relationship ready people available after 50. The emotional excess baggage is too much. My women therapist friends who are 10-12 years older have basically given up. LUCK, TIMING, AREA, AND OTHER FACTORS DO PLAY A PROMINENT PART IN HEALTHY PARTNER AVAILABILITY. Glad to hear you're trying the in person avenues. Best wishes on finding a healthy, compatible partner. We're the minority in society. Through relocating and an introduction, my 63 year old psychologist buddy just found his soulmate. I feel happy for him. I'm 10 years younger so in time I will too. I can't see PT having an online singles site. I've found on spiritual singles a great match, a Jungian psychologist who lives in another state and over the ocean. Hopefully, as we progress she'll in a few years move to my warmer climate. My area offers too little of interest, as I've tried for 6 years and 250 contacts. It's truly a miracle to find one's meant-to-be and often takes a larger population pool. That's part aof what's so helpful about the web. Bravo to you on your courage in reaching out far and wide, and, hopefully, success... I am a responsible, mature adult under the age of fifty who is not a rapist. However, I am mentally ill, having sufferedthrough severe, chronic depression for several years now, so don't go getting any ideas! It is definitely refreshing to find someone so honest and candid about her or his bigotry in this day and age. I guess some people just can't detect their own irony. Excessive anger -- how much anger is excessive? Any anger that's expressed abusively, i. Then of course any physical throwing things or touching one's partner for sure is out of bounds. Any yelling or shouting also in my book is out of bounds. I teach my clients and practice myself taking an exit out of any situation in which a temper, or even a mildly raised voice, is likely to flare. Return when you and the other person both can talk about the problem instead of acting out in anger. See my post on Anger is a Stop Sign easiest to access via google. My guidelines are ones that are more stringent than most people are accustomed to. Many people however are willing to adopt them if a new partner suggests them. If not, that's probably a rule out for a further relationship, or at least would be for many people. My understanding is that young in this case refers to 21 or younger. While age 26 may be a point of consolidation of self-concept, when people are mature enough say post-college for at least a year or post-high-school for several years of working for at least several years to have the ability to choose an appropriate partner, yet not so consolidated in self-concept that they can't flex a bit to blend with their partner, they seem to be fine. The other key factor is best age to begin having children, which is mid-twenties biologically. That's why by age 23 I regard it as appropriate for young people to begin looking for a right partner. The two additional dimensions that makes younger marriage, at least in my eyes, a good idea are 1 bodies are best suited for childbearing and child-rearing in mid twenties to mid thirties and 2 just like Adam longed for an Eve, many people long to find and enjoy living life with a life partner earlier. Marrying earlier gives a couple more phases of life to enjoy together: creating a career, seeing the world, finding a community, etc. Thanks for adding this important research finding.... As Anonymous points there are plenty of terrible men and, by extension, women who definitely shouldn't ever be in a relationship. A huge amount of finding one's life match is luck. Another major factor is being special in any way. Special means that there are fewer like you out there. That goes to the comment one reader above made about how hard it can be, in some age ranges especially, to find an equally mature intelligent, religious, high-powered, or whatever the trait mate. Middle aged guy here, product of an alcoholic, asexual marriage, and I've had my own alcohol and mental health issues. I've made considerable headway in clearing things up and have been sober now for 11+ years. Good conversationalist, strong sense of humor, decent looking, stay in shape.... But there's this one other little problem. I've alway lived and slept alone. Yes, sometimes I think I would like to be coupled, but I just don't know if it's really doable, and this supports the suspicion that if someone is over 50 and single it's probably for a reason. For most of what should have been my prime mating years I didn't see myself as anyone's potential mate, or errantly convinced myself that I didn't really want it, I'd rather just sit around and drink myself into a stupor and feel sorry for myself. Even with pretty solid sobriety now, and while I think I generally have pretty good insight into what makes people tick, I have no relationship, and very little sexual, experience. I don't know all the games, the signals, what does this or that mean. What to do, when to call, how much to hang out, etc. When I was growing up, the social scene was sort a tribal thing, where folks tended to pair up with co-tribesmen or women. This isn't incestuous, it just means that one would have a better idea of what a potential mate is actually like before choosing to becoming intimate. I never dated, but I would feel like a used car salesman. I'm open to coupling, but it would have to be with someone I know, and even then I'm still pretty skittish. I can see that being in a good relationship would be a better, healthier way to live than staying single, but I can also see that a bad relationship would be much worse. And so, gentle readers, in conclusion, and not to purposefully feed the anxieties of the unhappily single, you'd be well advised to regard middle-age single people with suspicion. Currently patting self on back for the eloquence of my discourse.... With so many other men and women that God has Blessed to find love and happiness together, makes me wonder that God is punishing many of us from having a love life that we would certainly want too. Having a partner can also be a curse. At the same time, life offers many potential blessings, as well as many potential difficulties. It can help to keep your eyes open and your heart appreciative for the good things in your life. Meanwhile, I do hear your sadness. May circumstances shift so your sadness turns soon to joy! I decided to stop failing in love with any girl. I have seen it all. At 48 I have seen most of my friends marriages fall apart. They have had been put through the ringer in the Femi-Nazi dominated Family Court. They have lost everything that they have worked for.... They have been arrested and jailed on false DV charges The women is always right.... I have seen the kids stripped away from the men. I have seen absurd alimony and child support payments ordered by the court. I have seen my friends end up emotionally and financially bankrupt. And you are trying to support and promote this BS. My advice to men?.... Do not fall into this legal quagmire. You will live to regret it,I assure you! Ask any divorced man! Stay away from women in the English speaking countries. They are a waste of time. Look towards foreign women. Do an internet search and you will find hundreds of sites to introduce American or Canadian men to foreign women.... THERE IS NO SUCH ANIMAL! Why do you think that is?.... Because they want nothing to do with Western women. Western women are meant for sport sex... It's not like I didn't desire a woman or wanted to meet a great lady, I knew marriage wasn't worth the risk. Those who did divorce were always hammered by family court. Because there is zero recourse for false accusations, often they are made as a tool for winning any legal dispute by women. Thank god I didn't marry. If one uses google to search out reasons to not get married you'll find halarious blogs about why men wish they never got married. There is nothing to the contrary. What does that say? Many people are single because men know better on a risk reward evaluation never get married. There's someone for everyone. I have a friend who is very dependent - she will phone me and ask me if she should get a taxi or a bus to a place and I will get frustrated with her. Would I personally find that difficult to love? Yep, absolutely, but a lot of people would be fine with it, so I wonder tell her to change it in order to find a partner. Off this list I checked talking too much and monologuing. I'm superb at doing that, although I mostly apologise the moment I realise I'm doing it. Frankly, I get very interested in my own thoughts and I just go off on one, sometimes for hours. It's a habit I've picked up from my Dad. Sometimes I find it embarrassing when I notice the other is tired, and I do try to shut up and listen when I remember to - and I notice, interestingly, that doing so makes me anxious, so there is probably an element of not wanting to get close to people. I literally worry they will be boring. Doesn't that sound bad? Well, it's not the most helpful thing in the world but I've never found it difficult to find someone who is interested in me, so it can't be the end of the world. My issue with relationships is simply that I very rarely meet anyone I'm physically attracted to. I have had a go at sleeping with people who would otherwise be fine but I find it difficult to get aroused if I don't think they're hot and then sex is uncomfortable I'm female so I don't want to bother, really. Fortunately, I'm also happy enough being single, and I guess that's the other point I'd make here. I can't think of anything more intolerable than 'shopping' for a mate - what a road to disappointment. You may or may not bump into someone you fancy at any point. You don't need to think about how to find them, you meet people all the time in the course of living life and occasionally one of them will be hot. Well, I say that, but of course I'm single, so what do I know? And I totally agree that being happy with single, coupling or however your social setup happens to be structured is key to enjoying well-being. However, I was always shy when younger and didn't know what to do when a girl was attracted to me as well as being picky because of what I felt as high pressure being first born in my entire family to find someone perfect that everyone would approve of. Eventually, the pressures of life hit me and I turned to food as a way to cope. Lol So, now I'm a 318 lbs 42 year old who never gets dates and needs a relationship so badly it nearly physically hurts. All girls I meet friend zone me on the rare occasions I do meet one. Valentine's Day is one of my most despised days as everyone else celebrates it and posts on Facebook pics of them and their girlfriends and I just exist in pain. So, yes, looks are 50% of the battle. Because I am fat, I don't get anywhere with any ladies. I'm actually a therapist by trade, and have charisma, a good personality and am a very kind and understanding person. I wish they would do more articles on motivating the underdog who isn't between relationships or maintaining one, but has been alone for decades... Or at least a long time. That dry spell is hard to break. Sorry, but they are hypocrites. Your personality won't even be considered if they aren't attracted to you in the first place! On the other side of the coin, I myself am not attracted to overweight women. I agree, there needs to be an initial attraction at first. Still, it stinks to see old pics of yourself as a good-looking guy, then look in the mirror today and see one that needs to lose 100 lbs. It's a daunting goal and the only reason I am losing it now is to find love. It also stinks to hear the hypocrisy of women when they should just come out and say they want a handsome man who ALSO has a good personality. I apologize for my rant here, but it's just that its Valentines Day and I'm alone again for the countless time. I just wish Psychology Today did articles on the social anomalies like me va the average Joe. And at the same time, I am very glad to hear that you are working on losing weight. You need to do that for your own personal health as well as to find a mate. Keep your eyes on your goal and you'll get there. Check out the article I posted recently on Love After 50. It really does happen.... And i will say that many of these women do go with men that have a lot of money whether he is ugly or not. And these type of women are just users and losers which most of them are just golddiggers anyway to begin with, and they will just use these innocent men just for the money in the first place to get the nice things that these men will buy them too. And most of the women in the old days weren't like the ones that are everywhere today which made love very easy to find back then. It really amazes me how so many men and women out there that were very Blessed to meet their Loved ones when many of us Weren't as Very Lucky as they were which i will Never understand it at all. Too bad that we Weren't born at a much Earlier time which it would've made all the difference in the world for us since we could've been all settled down by now with our own family. It is so much more difficult for us men especially since it is usually much Easier for women finding Love.
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